Today I want to speak about the longing I see everywhere.
Longing for truth. I see it with the clients I work with, people I meet in my community, with friends and family, on social media.
The longing for truth, the longing for a different world.
Because the system we have is broken and built on a lie. We have been fooled to believe that sacrificing our life will lead to freedom and happiness.
That hard work and struggle will one day be rewarded. As many are starting to see, it’s not—because it’s based on a lie.
The good news is the truth wants to be revealed.
What If Everything You’ve Been Taught About Success Is Wrong?
What if everything we have been taught about productivity, growth, and success is violently against our nature?
Once, human beings lived in a very different rhythm. Life wasn’t something to conquer.
It was something to be in.
But then patriarchy came and everything changed. Qualities of the feminine were made illogical.
We were forced to explain mystery instead of live it. Nature was dissected into categories.
The body was reduced from being an intelligent sensing source of wisdom into just a piece of flesh—a machine to control, measure, and exploit.
Childbirth is one example: once seen as a sacred ritual led by women who carried embodied knowledge. It became medicalized, measured by efficiency and speed, performed by men, and cut off from the intelligence of the body itself.
In this system, we were trained to grow out of oneness, to leave body, earth and feeling behind and become so-called rational adults. The result: alienation, disembodiment, and spiritual crisis.
There’s this idea that the further back in time you go, the more savage our species was. But actually the opposite is true.
The further back in history, the gentler our species was. Matrifocal groups were concentrated on maintaining, nurturing, and sustaining life.
Not exploiting. People who worked maybe 15 hours a week.
The rest of life was spent in ritual, lovemaking, art, laughter, resting, community, play, and what we call professions today: cooking, medicine, food gathering, science, weaving, pottery. These were inventions by women and produced by women.
Rooted in sustaining life. Culture was created in the hands of women.
Under patriarchy, those same professions were stolen, mechanized, and turned into profit industries. Healing became medicine for profit.
Food gathering became agribusiness. Pottery became industrial production.
Production shifted from sustaining life to extracting value.
And when ritual and cyclical time were cut away, we lost our collective ways of metabolizing grief, desire, ecstasy. Now we have a society where individuals are left carrying those symptoms alone as burnout, depression, and anxiety.
Today we live in a culture where stillness is seen as pointless. Feeling is weakness.
Ambiguity and paradox are called illogical. Things are either black or white.
We’ve created a society where the most natural parts of us—rest, community, joy, cyclical being—have no metric of value.
There’s no place for stillness on a performance review. There’s no profit in you sitting by the fire with your loved ones.
There’s no KPI for connection.
What’s celebrated instead is domination, abstraction, productivity, and growth for its own sake. We clap our hands when the stock market hits double digits.
We don’t know who we are. We don’t show up as we are.
We don’t know how to be with our emotions. We avoid the truth.
And the consequence is sickness—both on the individual level and as a collective.
Burnout has become the common cold. The solution they say is to cope, build resilience, learn stress management.
Do meditation, journal. Go to therapy, but not to access your divinity, your truth, or your body, not to return home—just to survive one more quarter, to stay numb just for a little bit longer.
Doctors are surveyed for how long they put people on sick leave. And God forbid if you spend too many months in stillness and rest—social security will be knocking on your door asking why you haven’t recovered quicker, asking you to contribute with your productivity.
And our bodies react. Not only with burnout, ADHD, anxiety, depression, chronic illness, and even fatal diseases like cancer.
And these aren’t individual failures. They’re symptoms of a system at war with our human nature.
Your nervous system isn’t disordered. It’s sounding the alarm of a world out of order.
Why Technology Made Us Work Harder, Not Smarter
Everything is measured by growth, but is there any real growth if it makes us more imprisoned?
As a society, we are more technologically advanced than ever. But the machines that were supposed to free us only put more demands on us.
Electricity, the washing machine, the typewriter, the computer, AI—all of it should have given us time back. But instead, we work harder, we work more.
Technology is deflationary by nature. It should give us more freedom.
But we have a system of inflation that demands infinite growth. And few are questioning this.
Inflation is completely manmade. It’s not a law of nature.
It’s not a law of physics.
Nothing in nature grows forever. Something that keeps on growing and growing and growing eventually becomes a tumor.
Something we all can agree isn’t very healthy.
The system is trying to fight this, but it’s impossible because fighting technological advancement is like fighting gravity.
We fight it through debt. The cycle is simple: We borrow to fuel growth.
We spend so that the economy grows. It grows until it can’t grow anymore, and then it slows, and then we borrow more to get the cycle going again.
Every new layer of debt makes freedom feel more impossible, and that’s why people cling to their jobs and fear career gaps more than their own soul’s emptiness.
That’s colonization of your inner life.
So we’re caught in an illusion of progress while dying inside. We are enslaved by an economic model that doesn’t serve us.
The Cracks Are Showing (And That’s Good News)
The good news—or bad news, depending on how you see it—is that the system is already breaking down.
The cracks are showing. People are waking up and there’s a new story beginning inside of us.
I see it in the clients I work with and the conversations I’m in: women who have been the good girls, done it all, taken all the responsibilities and then some, achieved and produced, but are finding themselves empty, exhausted, and pissed off because the world they were promised never came.
I see people with a deep dream to do something else, to spend more time with their children, to live more purposefully. To have community, to have more depth, more meaning, and more stillness.
But they don’t dare to speak about it publicly. They don’t dare to admit even to themselves because what would happen when they admit their dream longing and they realize it’s unreachable?
And what about the career gap on the CV?
I also see people who have started businesses, who have “broken free,” who are pursuing their dreams, but still trapping themselves in the same cycle of burnout because they only know one way to operate: Keep working, keep achieving, so you don’t have to feel, so you don’t fall behind.
But you know what? No matter how much you work, no matter how much you do, no matter how many boxes you tick, no matter how much money you make—it’s never going to be enough because whatever next level you get to, you’re just going to notice what you meet is yet another mountain to climb.
It never ends and it will never end.
Because it’s the system that’s at fault.
The Simple Shift That Changes Everything
If you have a calling to change, if you’re feeling deep in your bones that how you are living life isn’t cutting it—listen to that desire.
Say it out loud, even just for yourself.
Admitting to yourself what you want is in itself extremely liberating, and also the only way we can start creating something new. Moving toward that truth—if you and I together start shifting towards something else, it starts with yourself.
It’s a cliche, I know, but it’s because it’s true.
Connect with yourself. Connect with the parts of yourself that you have suppressed.
Connect with the emotions: the fear, the judgment, the hurt, the pain, the guilt, the shame—all of it. All of the things that you are running away from, numbing from, trying to achieve your way out of.
When you start connecting with the different parts of yourself, when you sit with your emotions, when you access the depth within you, you also access joy, creativity, abundance, freedom.
Even if you are still within the system, it is possible to become free without anything changing outside of yourself. And when you have that freedom, then you can step out and choose.
Because when you’re not afraid of your emotions anymore, no one can control you.
Stillness becomes available. Because remember, stillness is not the absence of anything.
It’s presence. But capitalism can’t monetize presence.
So it has erased it.
In stillness, you can find yourself. Your own voice, your own truth.
Connect back with who you are.
So the work is to feel. The work is to rest.
The work is to open yourself to joy, vulnerability, creativity, abundance, and freedom. And from there we can begin to detangle this web together.